Saturday, September 26, 2009

7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People

1. Not showing up.
One of the biggest and simplest thing you can do to ensure more success in your life – whether it be in your social life, your career or with your health – is simply to show up more. If you want to improve your health then one of the most important and effective things you can do is just to show up at the gym every time you should be there.

2. Procrastinating half the day. To keep it short, my 3 favourite ways to get out of a procrastinating state are:

A good start in the morning lifts your spirits and creates a positive momentum for the rest of the day. That often creates a pretty productive day.

Split a task into small actionable steps. Then just focus on the first step and nothing else. Just do that one until it’s done. Then move on to the next step.

I find this guided mediation to be very useful. After 20 minutes of mostly just lying on my bed and listening I’m far more productive for a few days.

3. When actually doing something, doing something that isn't the most important thing right now.
When you have prioritized using this rule just write down the top 3 most important things you need to do that day. Then, from the top, start doing them. Even if you just get one of the things done, you have still done the most important thing you could do today.

4. Thinking too much. 
Compulsively thinking and thinking and thinking is just another way to waste your time. You don’t have to examine everything from every angle before you try it. And you can’t wait for the perfect time to do something. That time never comes. And if you keep thinking you’ll just dig yourself down deeper and deeper and taking action will become more and more difficult. Instead you just need to stop thinking. Shut of your mind – it just helps you up to a point – and go do whatever you need to do.

5. Seeing the negative and downsides in just about anything.

When you see everything from a negative perspective you quickly punch a hole in your own motivation. You find faults everywhere and problems where there are really none. You cling to details. If you want to find a reason to not do something then that’s no problem. From a negative viewpoint you can find ten reasons every time.

6. Clinging to your own thoughts and being closed to outside influences.

It can be hard to admit that what you thought or believed was not the best alternative. So you cling to your thoughts harder and harder and keep your mind closed. This makes it hard to improve and for instance to become more effective. Even really considering the possibility that you can change your life can be difficult in this position.

7. Constantly on information overload. 
With information overload I don’t just mean that you read a lot. I pretty much mean an overload in all input. If you just let all information flow into your mind it will be hard to think clearly. It’s just too much stimulation.


I'm guilty of #2, #4 & #5 for sure! :b Procrastinate is something I do everyday. Having too much on my mind caused me to be sleepless all the time. Negative thoughts always get the best of me.

Cozycot event at Expo, flea at Home Club & dinner with bffz & bblove!!!!!!! <3

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#501 out of 1001 things I want in a lover: Someone who will do anything to see me, even if it's just for a minute

Current earworm: Lights - The Listening (Acoustic)

"Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop trying to figure out precisely how we feel, and stop deciding with our mind what we want our heart to feel. more often than not, sometimes we just have to go with 'whatever happens, happens'."

Wish I could..

Been crying for the past hour. Guess I don't deserve to be happy. My happiness is always so short-lived. Wished you lived a little longer in me, happiness, my dear.

Every day I think about you half as much as I did the day before. But I'll never stop thinking about you. Your name still roll off my tongue all the time, you're a topic that I'll always bring up in conversations. Do you know that?

I wanna feel better soon. I guess I kept so much inside of me, I cannot take it anymore. I don't wanna be this sad, I wanna be okay. Just okay. Never mind if I'm not happy, because this unhappy life I've been living, I'm getting so used to it. I guess I'll be strong enough to take it all.

God, please..

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Thursday, September 24, 2009

I'm only there so that you're not alone

On Saturday, Khloe lent me her digital Harinezumi. I just went on snapping, happily. Unknowingly it came up to 58 photos within a really short period of time. And also because my compact cam died on me, I used the Harinezumi to snap most of the time. Ever since then, I am so fucking tempted to just tell Khloe I'll take Harinezumi, the jelly lens that sissy wanted & the red/white holga. So. Fucking. Tempted!!!!! I can never get enough of lomo cams or cameras.

This is how the Harinezumi look like!

Small & compact, light weight! Need not develop the films at all. All you need a SD card reader to upload the photos you've taken. What is amazing about Harinezumi is that, you can take photos & videos! I'm so amazed. This costs like $230. :s I've to work for two weeks to get that much amount of money :( Should I get it, should I get it!!!!!!?

Shall show you guys a few photos that I snapped :)

Khloe & I

Bff & I

Me, tending the stall at the bazaar!

Lift :D

Backstage - my favourite shot!

Pretty heels for the pretty models :>

The clothes

Bff at the bazaar!

Pretty, aren't they!?!!! Got a few more but check them out in my Facebook :) But this cam costs two weeks' pay!!!!!! Bff thinks that it is a tad too pricey for a small cam like this. Khloe suggested if I think it is too price for my liking, I can get VistaQuest.

VistaQuest VQ 1005 in red!

This costs $97, retailing at PageOne bookstore. The difference between VQ & Harinezumi is VQ does not have LCD screen but Harinezmi have. I can earn $97 back if I work for three days...


I'll continue considering, while you readers help me make up my mind by commenting, ok luv!

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When left alone with my thoughts they always turn to you

Today I:
x met a crazy aunty who kept asking everyone for money on the bus
x was late to meet bb & her sissy to help them with their work
x camwhored with them using her sissy's laptop's webcam
x am very happy because after the talk I had with bee few weeks back, she kissed me twice & hugged me a million times on her own accord today. (love you babee)
x bought durian puffs for mom & dad
x had the longest conversation with bffz over msn
x had the longest conversation with @yanhui_isdope & @hanicetsai over twitter
x am very very very very happy because of you

Happy things happened. Now my eye can stop twitching like a bitch.

Project meeting tomorrow for SBS assignment with Shermaine, Chrissy, Samuel, Swathi & bffz. Can we all have PastaMania before that? The craving has gotta stop!! :( Been craving since the event on Saturday...

Ok 3.31am, my body clock is officially ruined.

P/s: you don't know how happy you made me <3
P/p/s: bee, I really love t see you in the white tank top but hate you for not wanting t wear it out with me! :@

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Friday, September 18, 2009

You're the only thing I see & I have loved you beautifully

Just say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't expect someone to read your mind, and don't play games with heads or hearts. Don't tell half truths and expect trust when the full truth comes out. Half truths are no better than lies. Don't be cold to someone you care about, indifference hurts more than angry words.

Sorry that I was cold to you. But your indifference hurt me more than anything else. And you know what? I've been hurting for a long time now.

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Thursday, September 17, 2009

Every girl needs a man...

The kind that will treat you right. The kind that searches for you with all his heart. The kind that respects you and adores you.

Every girl needs a man who won’t cheat on her. One who can be trusted in a room full of beautiful girls. Because he’s smart enough to know that he already has a girl who has everything that he wants, needs and more.

The right guy will never leave you lonely and wondering. You will always know where you stand with him. He will be your best friend and lover. He’ll call you early in the morning just to say good morning or late at night to say good night and maybe even tell you a bedtime story to make you laugh or talk to you until you fall asleep.

This guy will be the kind that’ll do anything for you, even if it’s just to go to the store to buy you your favorite ice cream. He’ll buy you flowers just because it’s a Wednesday and will notice your hair when you’ve gotten it cut or have gotten all gussied up specifically for him.

You deserve a guy who will cherish you. He’d never be afraid to smile to his friends when you’re around and tell them, “She’s the one”. He’d appreciate you for the things you do for him, even if they’re little… like the little love notes you leave him.

He’ll be chivalrous. He’ll wait for you when you’re falling behind, open doors for you and will walk you to the door to make sure you get in safely. He would defend and fight for you and never bail on you when you needed him most.

The right guy will call you beautiful instead of hot, he’ll kiss your forehead when you’re down and he’ll be the one who will love you for everything you are.

Never settle for anything less.

Read this last night before I went to bed. Really like this writing :)
And it's totally true, no?

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You know that I love you so, I love you enough to let you go

Remember all the things we wanted
Now all our memories, they're haunted
We were always meant to say goodbye
Even with our fists held high
It never would have worked out right, yeah
We were never meant for do or die...

I didn't want us to burn out
I didn't come here to hurt you now I can't stop...

I want you to know
It doesn't matter where we take this road
Someone's gotta go
And I want you to know
You couldn't have loved me better
But I want you to move on
So I'm already gone

Looking at you makes it harder
But I know that you'll find another
That doesn't always make you wanna cry
It started with the perfect kiss then
We could feel the poison set in
"Perfect" couldn't keep this love alive
You know that I love you so
I love you enough to let you go

I want you to know
It doesn't matter where we take this road
Someone's gotta go
And I want you to know
You couldn't have loved me better
But I want you to move on
So I'm already gone

I'm already gone, already gone
You can't make it feel right
When you know that it's wrong
I'm already gone, already gone
There's no moving on
So I'm already gone

Ahhhh already gone, already gone, already gone
Ahhhh already gone, already gone, already gone

Remember all the things we wanted
Now all our memories, they're haunted
We were always meant to say goodbye...

I want you to know
It doesn't matter where we take this road
Someone's gotta go
And I want you to know
You couldn't have loved me better
But I want you to move on
So I'm already gone

I'm already gone, already gone
You can't make it feel right
When you know that it's wrong
I'm already gone, already gone
There's no moving on,
So I'm already gone

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Tuesday, September 15, 2009

You can't truly have an open heart until it's been broken

I don't know if you felt that or not.

But it felt like two people kissing after hours of thinking about it.

It felt like two people talking after nights of silence.

It felt like two people touching after weeks of being numb.

It felt like two people facing each other after months of looking away.

It felt like two people in love after years of being alone.

And it felt like two people meeting each other, after an entire lifetime of not meeting each other.

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Thursday, September 10, 2009

Our last kiss

Meredith Grey: Hey.

Derek Shepherd: Hey. You almost died today.

Meredith Grey: Yeah, I almost died today.

Meredith Grey: I can't, I can't remember our last kiss. All I could think about was, "I'm going to die today and I can't remember our last kiss," which is pathetic. But the last time we were together and happy, I... want to be able remember that, and I can't Derek. I can't remember.

Derek Shepherd: I'm glad you didn't die today.

Derek Shepherd: It was a Thursday morning, you were wearing that ratty little "Dartmouth" T-shirt you look so good in, the one with the hole in the back of the neck. You'd just washed your hair and you smelled like some kind of... flower. I was running late for surgery. You said you were going to see me later, and you leaned to me, you put your hand on my chest and you kissed me. Soft. It was quick. Kind of like a habit. You know, like we'd do it everyday for the rest of our lives. And you went back to reading the newspaper and I went to work. That was the last time we kissed.

Meredith Grey: Lavender. My hair smelled like lavender... from my conditioner.

Derek Shepherd: Lavender. Huh.

I can't remember the last time we kissed.
I can't remember the last time you wanted to hold my hand.
I can't remember the last time you wanted to hold me.

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Tuesday, September 8, 2009

I'm haunted by a sadness in this heart of mine

I realized I don't know if I love you anymore. I always said I'd love you, but I feel like I'm moving and changing while you stay static.

I'm passing you by, my dear.

In some ways I still want us to work, want this whole crazy thing full of mistakes and anger and happiness and sharing and beauty to work. But in another, larger way, I feel like I've already lost you.


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Saturday, September 5, 2009

I miss the sound of your voice, the loudest thing in my head

Today, I realized loving you is difficult; almost unbearable. The fights, in your words, "pull our last threads," put us "on thin ice" or "on the edge of the cliff," place "a strain on our relationship," thus being "this close to being done." I never understand how you treat me sometimes, how you point out all my flaws, how you occasionally call me unpleasant things, and how you could leave as if your life would be perfect and untouched; as if I haven't made any impact. Sometimes I really don't know why I stay with you, why I bother to fight for our relationship. You, in fact, bring out the worst of me.

But still, I've never wanted anything as much as I've wanted to be with you. You bring the best out of me. We've done so much for each other, and you and I both know that it's not worth throwing all away. In going through so much together, it's unbelievable how we both could stand all of this.
More importantly, you altered my outlook on life. You’ve changed me for the better.

The good times outweigh the bad times by tons and tons, and tons.

Drowning in your love is worth it in the ending when you remind me that you love me.

I love you, too.


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Tuesday, September 1, 2009

I'm sorry I'm not strong enough to let go of the things that I love way too much

Few nights back, I had this dream. I forgot what was it about. Tried to remember but I couldn't. I was really happy in that dream. When I woke up, and realised I'm back to reality, my heart sank. The happiness is nowhere to be found.

Wished I could remember the dream & remember it forever.
Wished it was easier for me than it is for you.

Not forgetting, school was fab today. I love Ban to the max, she's the best companion anyone can ever have. Mr Jalaini showed us this Indian movie. Some parts are quite sad, some are like really sick! Little kids at the age of 10 knows what sex is about, omg! Scary.

After class, we took train to Orchard while Ban went Bugis to meet mama Ong. Finally bought the dark denim high waist shorts that I've been eying!! Hahaha I wanted the light denim one but it looks ugly on me, even bff thinks so. I can't fucking shop alone, I need opinions so I can decide what to buy & what not to. Shittttt, this really sucks. I wanna be able to shop alone!!!!

Far East Plaza is like my second home. Went to visit Liyana, the new part timer. Very sweet girl, heard she's on The New Face! Very pretty :) Poor Jolin got no sale upstairs but after bff & I went in, a lot of people came in!! We left our stuff in the shop, helped her pack a little. Hate it when the shop looks messy or when the straps of the bag is dangling everywhere, look super messy! After that, we went to walk around :D hahahah we looked like we were doing a market survey!

Got so tired after that, we were there for only three hours. Bought Subway cookies 'cos we finally realised we skipped lunch & was mad hungry! Went to the supermarket before going back. Bought chips, a loaf of bread & magazines :>

P/s: Mama Ong, don't be a mysterious reader ok!! I am updating now because Ban told me that you asked her why I didn't update hahahaha! Hello mama Ong :)

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